One of my favorite personal sayings us, "Witches Spell it Out". There is so much power in this, from simply writing something down yo the cathartic proceeds that occurs when we take the time to journal or write a heartfelt letter. The hand maps to the brain, and in the dedication to create clarity there is s pragmatic tool in making sure everyone is on the same page. We all understand the contract. With no loopholes, small print, or other self sabotages/deceits.
What do you need to spell out, in order to feel not just heard and understood, but respected. Compromise should be the word count promise - not, sure I'll sacrifice myself for uou dear, but the sense of co-promise, as in, what is each person or party committed to for the greatest good? As Rob Brezney states, "You can have anything you want as long as you ask for it in an unselfish tones of voice."
So don't be shy. Write a list, organize your thoughts, express your needs, and find creative ways for them to be met. That is the ultimate magic spell.